Etiquettes of the Wedding Night

When the groom and bride meet for the first time, the bridegroom is advised to present himself in a pleasant manner, and talk sweetly to the bride in order to start a good relationship and to stop uneasiness and nervousness

Asmaa bint. Yazeed b. as-Sakan, may Allah Allah (y) be pleased with her, said, “I prepared A’ishah for the Messenger of Allah and then called him. He Propeta (s) came and sat beside her. A jug of milk was brought to him, which he drank from, and gave A’ishah. She lowered her head, and was embarrassed. Asmaa’ said, “I reproached her and said to her, ‘Take it from the hand of the Prophet (s) ‘!She then took it and drank from it. The Prophet (s) then said to her, ‘Give it to your companion.’ Asmaa said, ‘I said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, take it yourself, drink from it, and then give it to me with your hand.’ He took it and drank from it, and then gave it to me. I sat, and moved the utensil around so that I would drink from the same spot the Prophet (s) drank from. He then said, ‘Give it to [the other women that were with me].’ They said, ‘We do not fancy it!’ The Prophet (s) said, ‘Do not gather between hunger and lies.’” (Ibn Majah)

It is also an act of Sunnah (practice of the Prophet) for the groom to place his hand on the forelocks of the bride and supplicate Allah, as in the Hadeeth: اللهُمّ إِنِّيْ أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرها وخَيْر ما جُبِلَتْ عليه وأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّها وشَرّ ما جُبِلت عليه Al’lahum’ma in’nee asa’loo-ka khai’raha wa khair maa jo’be’lat alaih wa a’oodthu be’ka min shar’re’haa wa shar’ree maa jo’be’lat alaih “O Allah! I seek of you [to grant me] the best of this woman and the best of her characteristics. O Allah! I seek refuge in you from all the evils of this woman and her evil characteristics.” (Bukhari)